My husband is cheating on me and I have him admitting it, or at least not denying it on tape… I know that screams vindictive B*** but long story short I am protecting myself from a VERY bad situation. There were two tapes, the first I still have, the second which had more detail was destroyed when he opened my purse and found the recorder. So, I have 2 questions… is that enough evidence to take to GI, what steps can/should I take here. Secondly, if the “destroyed” tape’s actual film reel is still in ok condition can it be threaded onto another tape and salvaged, it’s broken on one end, but there is still plenty of tape that has been recoded? Just wondering. This is a bad situation and I only recorded him to protect myself, but I think I need to do something and I don’t know what else to do… answering without judgement would be very much appreciated I’ve already been through A LOT!!!
We don’t have any children and we are getting divorced… he won’t grant me a divorce and I have not hired a lawyer yet because he has already said he’ll contest every detail until I am so far in debt I’ll give up. I don’t want to play the victim card but I just found out he has a girlfriend and that he has slept with AT LEAST 3 women in the 5 years we’ve been married. Embarrassed to say he “burned” me which is how this all got started. In Texas the marital property laws state “no fault divorce” so regardless of why we’re getting divorced everything gets split down the middle. So we have to sell our house or he’ll get it because he makes more money. That would mean I give up my home (I designed this house) my horses that live here and the other animals on my small farm. If I don’t do something he will get half OR MORE of everything even though I’ve never been unfaithful. He has already taken my car for the girl to drive an I almost got fired for my job because I have to find rides.
Ok, SheHerself, thanks for your answer, unfortunately for you I have two room mates and we all share one girl’s email on here because the rest of us have gmail! I’m not mad, because I didn’t even know you could look at question history like that and I understand how it looks, but I am not a drama queen either, between the three of us we’d make one hot mess! LOL

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